The expectation was clear. She wanted me to graduate. And get a good job. To the point where it felt overbearing. Especially in high school when I was trying to figure out my own identity. I started talking back, which is very disrespectful in Vietnamese culture. Grinch I just wear the stupid mask face mask. And I got involved in bad relationships because I knew she’d disapprove. I just didn’t want to feel like her trophy. Like all that mattered was my education and career. I didn’t want to be the redemption for how hard her life had been. But as I got older, I learned just how hard it was. Other family members filled in the details. Her dad died when she was six and she was separated from her mother.
Grinch I just wear the stupid mask face mask
She’d witnessed rape and violence. She’d escaped the war on a boat in the middle of the night. And I began to understand why she was so obsessed with me being successful and independent. Her life had been anything but stable. Grinch I just wear the stupid mask face mask. Yet she’d provided us with so much stability. When my dad lost his job, we didn’t even know. We went to Disney World that year. So I’ve grown to realize how lucky we were. And Mom’s been trying to grow as well. She’s starting saying ‘I’m proud of you.’ Which is weird, but nice. And she’s really trying to ask about things other than work and school. Though when my brother graduated recently she did pull our entire family’s gowns out of storage. So she could have one final picture for the living room.”